The fact that he looked like a sack of wet sawdust and had the conversational talents of a clogged drain did not seem to come into the reckoning. The same woman had once told me “Money is what women care about most of all” and, while she was obviously speaking for herself, she may also have been voicing the general approach to sex and marriage of a certain category of womanhood.
Felix Dennis, the near-billionaire publisher who recently died, negotiated many decades with women on an emotionless calculation of their material interests.
I was in my late twenties, a television producer, and fresh out of a suffocating three-year relationship with a man who drained both my time and my finances when I signed up. Instead, I fantasised about someone older, more sophisticated, more established.
And, if I’m being honest, someone with some money, too.
“I’m not his daughter,” she said as she took my arm and we walked away. So, despite the age gap, something appears to have been right between us.
Tomorrow, we will celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary with our two little girls (passers-by on the pavement routinely take me to be their grandfather).
In return for a no-strings but mutually beneficial relationship, the women who sign up can get to be treated like a lady, showered with gifts, taken on all-you-can-buy shopping sprees, and enjoy meals at the best tables in town.
Now 67, I am the same age as Ronnie Wood, whose marriage to Sally – a woman three decades younger – featured in the Telegraph yesterday. She has said she wishes she had met me 10 years earlier and wishes, also, that there might have been 10 years fewer difference between us.
Bryony Gordon’s affectionate profile made it look like a happy marriage with no illusions on the bride’s behalf. When she had perhaps drunk a glass of wine too many one evening some years ago, she did admit that she feared being a widow at 60; but it is also true that, before we married, she called me “the nicest boyfriend I have ever had” and, within living memory, she said that she wouldn’t swap me for Brad Pitt. And that is even without my having the obvious, overwhelming attractions of that shrivelled, wizened midget Ronnie Wood.
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